Happy Birthday April!

Today is my "sister's" birthday. I have known April since she was 11 years old and we have been through a lot together. However in recent years we have drifted further and further apart. It is a common thing to lose touch with childhood friends, we've all done it. But I have to say that April is one of the few people I actually still think about and miss when I don't hear from her in a long time. Even my mom asks about her, and she could give a rat's ass about most of my friends! But she knows that to me, April will always be a part of my family. Mostly because we were both only children and I am very protective of the people I love. So once I decided that she was going to be my sister, that was it. So in honor of April's birthday, I feel the need to address some "friends" that I can or cannot live without.

Stacy~ One of the few childhood friends I couldn't imagine my life without. She has known me since I was 16 years old. If I even thought about discontinuing our friendship she would probably tell everyone where the bodies of past boyfriends are hidden! Just kidding... Sort of. She helped get me through my first love and the heartbreak that followed when I discovered that he was trying to lay damn near all of my friends. She knows more of my secrets then I care to acknowledge right now! She will forever be my best friend... I wrote that in her yearbook!

Kim~ I used to consider her my friend until she slept with the man I was in love with (who was also the best friend of her fiance at the time) while I fell asleep putting her daughter to bed. Then she lied about it for years. I would have forgiven her if she would have: a) not blatantly lied about it and b) been at all remorseful about what she had done. I've tried to put the whole thing behind me numerous times, but I have a hard time letting shit go. Her daughter recently called me then put her on the phone, and the only thing I could think was: why the fuck are you calling me all of a sudden? She's one of those people that is always in the midst of some personal crisis and needs to share the whole emotional story with you. I can live without the whole thing.
(Sidenote: I am still friends with the guy she humped though. He told me the truth, apologized and we have become much better friends than we had ever been).

G~ I met G through Stacy when she was 17 years old. She was shy but funny when you got to know her. We once accidentally shared a boyfriend. Let me explain. She lived in Brooklyn, I lived in NJ, and he lived in Manhattan. If it were any other 2 girls, he would have gotten away with the whole thing. But the world is a small place and God don't like ugly! Once Stacy realized that both of her friends were talking about the same boyfriend, we set up a sting. He suffered, and G and I bonded. Years later when I moved to VA Beach, I sent G a Christmas card in Brooklyn. Her mom asked her why someone in the same zip code as she is would sent her a card in Brooklyn. She tracked down Stacy, found out where my house was and got my phone number, and helped me get a job. She is probably the only person who knows both the pre-20's me and the woman I am today. This year she is getting married, and I am honored to say that she has asked me to sing at her wedding! My life wouldn't be complete without her.

Kimmy~ I love me some Kimmy aka Itty Bitty. What she lacks in height, she makes up for in attitude. I met Kimmy at one of the many jobs that I've had and absolutely fell in love with her smart ass personality. She is beautiful inside and out, but God help you if you ever get on her bad side. She helped me get through so much (this blog isn't big enough to go into it all) and I don't know what I would have done with out her. She has since moved to Buffalo and gotten married. But I will always miss my favorite shopping buddy!

Barb~ By far one of the few people who truly "get" me. I met Barb a couple of years after moving down here. We instantly clicked over music we love. She is smart, loyal and great to just hang out with. We are complete opposites in many ways but agree on so many things that it sometimes confuses folks around us. For years people have been trying to figure out how she can be my friend since she's so quiet and laid back, and I'm so abrasive and all over the place. It works for us, thank goodness. Because if she weren't around, I would probably be off doing something crazy that could get me killed. She thinks things through and I just act on impulse! One thing is true, if anyone messes with her, they will feel my wrath!

Honorable Mentions: These are people that I enjoy having in my life and am still in the process of building our friendships. Matthew, Cera, Buck, Jeff, and Chauncey. I didn't forget about ya'll. Much Love!